The Life of a teenager…Oh My!!!!......A trip back in time…..
What’s a Parent to do…..
Meeting new people, Oh my, What do I say, How do I act? Will they like me?
Making personal decisions everyday, What do I wear, How do I do my hair? Who will talk to me? What do I say when they do?
Facing new peer pressures (sex, drugs, alcohol, etc.) And are we not forgetting school violence, I am not going to think about it. I am going to think about it. What am I to do?
Conforming to behaviors that conflict with personal beliefs. Everyone is doing it, I know it is wrong but what can I do to change that? I want to be accepted.
Speaking up in class. What if it comes out wrong? What if the answer is wrong? I don’t want to sound stupid.
Communicating with educators. They are adults I am just a kid. Are they going to care what I think?
Managing course demands and schedules. So much to do so little time. How can I get all of this done, plus my chores, plus family responsibilities, plus hanging with my friends?
Seeking academic assistance when problems arise. Who do I ask? What do I say? Will I understand when they offer help? Will they offer to help? Will I just look stupid?
Balancing academics and social life. Not enough time to get it all done. Why bother?
Coping with weight gain/loss. Those darn hormones kicking in. Eating, purging, not eating at all, no matter what I do it doesn’t help.
Competing athletically. I hate PE, I can’t run as fast, I can’t be the best. Why can’t I be like the others?
Forming positive health habits and breaking problem habits. Ok do I know what is good? and I know what is bad? Am I right? Who do I ask? Wow will I sound stupid huh?
Becoming self-reliant in managing health/stress. So much to do so little time , And if we can’t ,there is always drugs and alcohol to help.
Finding lifetime hobbies and activities. And where is the time, school. chores, family pressure, friends.
Connecting with a new friendship group. Will they like me? Will I fit in? What do I say? What do I do?
Starting and managing romantic relationships. Kissing, dating equals excitement, being scared, what do I do? What do I say?
Learning how to show emotions in appropriate ways. I know how I feel but really can I share these?
Managing conflict situations. Nope.. better to run and hide from these.
Recognizing/deciding to act on sexual orientation. Those darn hormones again. Why am I attracted to the person of the opposite sex? The same sex? Where do I go for help?
Choosing an academic major. They are asking me choose, I don’t even know what I am going to wear tomorrow and they want me to decide on what I want to be for the rest of my life?
Do you remember? Think about each of these; Try to answer them as you would as a teenager. Then share your thoughts with your kids. It will open the line of communication. Share, Respect, and Understand. The three principles of a positive parent child relationship.